Particularly in romantic relationships, using our words is a step out of our comfort zone, since it is always easier to just send non-verbal signals and hope that our partners can read our mind. Sex is an especially tricky topic for some couples to talk openly about, and discussing it either seems to put it into an analytical or critical view, neither of which are that appealing.
And yet, many say communication is the secret to good sex.
Couples may put off these conversations time and again because bringing these topics to light can mean rocking the boat and digging up some potentially embarrassing or unpleasant feelings.
) or serious (I was uncomfortable when you...), using tact is necessary.
You wouldn’t want to drop a heavy-conversation bomb on your partner out of nowhere, and in order to share a erotic thought effectively, you have to start with getting yourself in the mood.
Growing up, we were taught to “use our words” whenever we wanted to express what was on our mind, as opposed to pouting and acting generally miserable to get attention.
That’s pretty sound advice coming from our elementary-school epoch; why is it that we leave that lesson behind as we get older?
This is for the couple that celebrates creative thinking on the fly.
Take that last heart-melting thing that your partner did, whether accidental or intentional, and share it with them as one of your new favorite turn-ons.
If it’s a tricky conversation that is probably way more hyped up in your head than it is in real life, have a walk-and-talk chat about it.
This sets the stage, plain and simple, for you to take some time to talk.
By stating what it’s about up front, they aren’t waiting with increasing suspense until the very end of the story to hear why you’re sharing this with them.