Madame Noire writer Christine Mwaturura came up with the ingenious plan of changing her race on a dating site to see exactly what life is like on the other side.
She’s looking for the same type of guy as me: at least 5’9”, athletic build, college educated with no kids. Quality of Emails Stephanie’s in-mail messages were generally crafted better.
So according to the “common knowledge” that black women are virtually ignored on dating sites, Mwtururua should have been flooded with a barrage of eligible bachelors and marriage proposals, right? Men would actually take the time to write an entire personalized paragraph to introduce themselves, whereas a good portion of my in-mail was incoherent gibberish like: “How you are beautiful eyes and your beauty beloved charming you the most beautiful angel.” Say what?
Quality of Suggested Matches Stephanie got more slightly better looking matches than I did.
She also never ran into an issue where a match’s profile specifically excluded her race from the ethnicity preferences, in comparison to me where I’d often see Black women specifically excluded from ethnicity preferences.
On the flipside, men are spurred into action when presented with a non-Black face…
As a whole, Stephanie’s online dating experience felt better than mine, but only marginally so.When comparing both online dating experiences, the most curious thing that came out of it for me was that even though my number of per week profile views beat out Stephanie’s, this did not translate into more interactions.It seems like men are happy to look at a Black woman but won’t initiate flirting.Stephanie is an unassuming looking, moderately attractive white woman with dark brown hair and a warm smile. winks, photo likes, and favorites) Stephanie received more interactions than I did on a per week basis.Her personality and hobbies are exactly identical to mine: she listens to Beyoncé, practices yoga and is a self-described health enthusiast. Number of Profile Views Stephanie got 27 views in one week. High-Grade Interactions Received (email) Stephanie received 5 emails in one week compared to my abysmal 1 email per week.At the end of it all, of the men who had initiated some form of interaction, there wasn’t a single guy whom I would have picked for a date.