Start with small talk Many people dislike small talk or feel dumb asking questions like, “So, what’s your favorite type of music?
Ask her how she found her current job and what she likes about it.
Hopefully, you have been a busy member of Healthdate and will soon be sitting across from a beautiful girl at a nice restaurant.
Even though the two of you may have already spent some time chatting online, you could still be faced with those dreadful moments of silence during your first date when no one knows what to say next.
Don’t worry, it happens to the best of us, especially if both you and your date are on the shy side.
Below are three tricks to keep the conversation going on a first date, and, more importantly, to building a rapport that will hopefully get you a second date.
Listen If you have a strong personality, or if your date is the quiet type, you may be tempted to dominate the conversation.
While it’s important that you get some air time as well, make sure you monitor the conversation so that you both are contributing.
Asking easy, general questions will help you figure out what your date likes or doesn’t like and will hopefully lead to the discovery of shared interests.
For example, a question about hobbies could lead to the realization that you both played tennis in high school, which could lead to enough personal anecdotes to get you through appetizers.
If she mentions that she’s a fan of jazz, ask her why.
Things like this will help you learn more about your date, and also help her open up and gain comfort with you.