(Rom ) Don’t look for a man who already has the best laid plans.
So this article is not to list a bunch of reasons why you are at fault for not being married …as if marriage was something you just bought at the store. I respect and care about women’s issues more than there is space to write about here.
Because Girls might get offended or not understand but a mature Christian woman will probably get it and take the knowledge. A woman’s relationship status does not define her, so being single is not a disease or an indication of something “wrong” with her.
So stop looking for men who have it all figured out! Here is what you SHOULD be looking for: Men who can be LED by God.
I’ve gotten a lot of one-on-one questions about this from BOTH MEN AND WOMEN and I figured it was time to write about it. As a daughter of God, he is working out your story beautifully, so bask in that.
Before I write another line though, it’s important that I say a few things and get some things out of the way. This article is mainly for mature Christian single women. This is however, for Christian ladies who are ready for marriage but frustrated that they can’t find the right guy even though there seems to be options. I write this respectfully but I will write it as honestly as possible as a man and as someone who knows a thing or two about relationships.
Think through the Bible…all the great men that had relationships with God and who he used and blessed…usually didn’t have a clue about where they were going and (here is the even crazier part) even if they had a clue, their lives for a long time did not reflect that great place God said he was taking them. All the way from Abraham …going to a land he did not know; Joseph having a dream that people would bow down to him but became a slave and then a prisoner; David who was anointed to be King and then lived the next 15 years in the wilderness as a fugitive; Peter the great fisher of men who was barely able to catch fish.
These men would have had a rough time finding a wife today. Abraham calling sister Sarah aside after church and saying “Errrmmm Sarah you know I love you right? “Look baby…I really care about you and want to spend the rest of my life taking care of you…
I’ll tell you probably like no one has told you before.So the tone may be a bit direct not because I am brash but because I am writing to Women not girls and one thing I know about women is that contrary to the opinion that they want you to beat around the bush, when it comes to things that are really important, they want you to tell them like it is.Soooo God wants to take us somewhere …but I have no idea where. In fact, I’ve just been anointed King…buuutttt I’m kinda living in the bushes right now and on the run from the King I’m supposed to replace.”Or Joseph.“Look Jill, God has shown me many dreams that people will bow down to me and I’ll be a great leader.They would rather know now, shed a tear or two and start working ASAP to move out, move up, move on or move forward so they don’t waste more time doing the same thing and not getting the outcomes they want. All your single girlfriends AND male friends should read this. Why can’t our wonderful Christian sisters find their Boaz, David or Joseph? Many Christian ladies want a man that “knows where he is going”…but God’s men usually don’t have a clue: Think about that for a moment.